Thursday, August 27, 2009

Parent and Child Relationship

Disclaimer: The "parents" in this post are not mine.

Recently, I heard that someone's parents are unhappy to someone because this person (let's call him A) hasn't called them in a long time. So I asked A whether the parents actually tried to contact A at all, like to initiate a conversation and A said no. Then I asked again, so how did A know that the parents are unhappy. A said because when A called them, they were kinda showing the unhappiness.

To me, it's kinda strange. If you miss your kid, why don't you call them first? Why throw temper at them when they are the one making the first move to call you? Maybe I'll understand this next time when I'm old... and my kids don't call me... but I don't really get it now...

I thought if both parties are not making the contacts then both parties are equally at fault. Or is there an unwritten rule that the kids have to be the one making the first move?

Additional thoughts after posting the above: I have a really cool mom. She never hesitates to contact us, when she's worried about us, when she misses us, or even just when she is frustrated and needs someone to talks to. She's such a cool mom that we even find it fun when she's around and she doesn't build that invisible barrier between us kids and her.

Thursday, August 13, 2009


Watch UP movie with my colleagues yesterday, but it wasn't the 3D version so I think it's a so-so movie.. kinda disappointed actually.. true it has more storyline and perhaps "moral of the story" than normal cartoon movie, but it's below my expectation for Pixar movie. It's funny but not that funny... and the animation is so-so too.. maybe because it's not 3D?

Monday, August 10, 2009

My life is like a battlefield

Have you ever felt like you have to constantly defending and rearrange your strategy in life? Recently that's how I have been feeling...

It's like I know if A is going to happen, then I will be upset. So I did a few things to make sure that A doesn't happen. BUT, if A doesn't happen then another thing will, like for e.g. B and cause a lot of other unforeseen and inpredictable outcome. And the way to resolve this could be much more difficult than to resolve problem A, but I'm still not saying that I'd rather have problem A... it's getting hard to explain the problem here..

Anyway, before meeting my SIL and family yesterday, I was just wondering whether I need to just keep quiet and shut my mouth in case I say the wrong thing, but they have always been unassuming and nice (since the beginning). Meeting them yesterday actually makes me feel a lot better now since I know that even though there's some problem between her parents and me, but she doesn't take it personally. Perhaps because she's a daughter-in-law too? Or just simply because she understands? I don't know, but I'm grateful :)

For now, I can say that I'm resting and not fighting a battlefield anymore. I don't know how long the peace will last, but I hope it's long enough.

PS: We found out Junior is a girl! :)

Tuesday, August 4, 2009

Becoming a mother means losing your identity?

I can't help but notice that a lot of my friends who now have kid(s) have become so obsessed with their kids. Some signs including updating their FB status messages every 5 minutes with an update of their kids, for e.g. "Just had a walk with xxxx" or "I love it when xxx smiles" or "xxx loves chocolate". It's never about them anymore, but more about their kid(s).

I'm wondering if I'm going to be like that next time and it scares me a little bit. It's like you are no longer a person anymore, you are just somebody's mother now. I know it's not a bad thing about becoming somebody's mother, seeing how so many people love their own mothers, but I still feel that we should be our own person... I'm not sure if I'm making sense at this point.. :p

Anyway, I've sent reminder to someone to remind me next time in case I become like the said persons in the first paragraph. :p

Monday, August 3, 2009

Dear baby....

I just saw my blog pregnancy ticker today and this is how it looked like..

Dear Baby,

Please don't give mommy any stretch mark or varicose veins. Mommy promises to buy you PlayStation 3 (or whatever version they have next time) if you behave!


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